it a blessing or a curse to find yourself in Saudi Arabia unable to legally
work? A curse of boredom and uselessness or a blessing of the
opportunity to reinvent yourself and discover new ways to
prosper? I’d encourage you to embrace the circumstances you’re in
and take a page from Ariana Grande’s book (song) by loving
yourself. It turns out that the empowering woman you need may be
The wonderful thing about our position is that it gives us the
freedom to pursue our interests and develop new skills that the rat race back
home may not afforded us the time to do. Take the chance to develop
skills that you can use on your resume in the future. Develop
expertise that you can take anywhere in the world.
Riyadh offers a welcoming professional networking scene as well as
a consumer-base that is open and eager to try home-based
businesses. By networking and volunteering, you may find a position
that will give you skills that are easily transferable back home (e.g. event
planning, fundraising). By pursuing a marketable interest (e.g.
party services, baked goods, coaching, beauty, fitness, crafts), you may find
yourself making a little more than pocket money. The options are
here for you to choose.
Two years ago, I became a licensed Realtor in the United States
and decided to open a real estate business here in Riyadh. I
practiced here and enjoyed the work a lot. Yet, despite earning
praise from clients, I found it was nearly impossible to be paid. I
had the ability to put up a fight and force payment but I decided that is not
how I wanted to use my energy. Realizing that I need work that pays
in cash instead of compliments, I chose to put that business on
hold. (I still freely give real estate tips, which need
to be paid in neither cash nor compliments.)
Although I didn’t turn into a real estate mogul, I did gain
professional experience and expertise. The option is always there
for me to return. Yet, at this point, the empowering decision was to
choose to disengage from the business I built.
Disengaging opened me up to other opportunities. I now
write as a freelancer for select Riyadh-based publications. I enjoy
the work and the benefits that come with it. I meet many interesting
people and expand my mind through exposure and experiences. I love
the challenge of making pieces both unbiased and genuine. I am very
conscious that there is not much written about Saudi Arabia and, thus, it is an
honor to do so. At this point, this is my perfect fit.
That is what’s so lovely about living here. We have the
luxury to find our perfect fits over and over again. We have the
ability to challenge and mold ourselves, both professionally and personally,
through the experiences we choose.
Now, if I’ve persuaded you to turn a new leaf, so to speak, but you could still use some thoughts on how to get going, connect with me. I do enjoy giving tips when I can because supporting other women empowers us all. Feel free to reach out to me at email@example.com.
In my home country – Bulgaria, we used to celebrate International Women‘s day, before it was officially adopted by the United Nations in 1975, due to our communist past. The Soviet Union doctrine was about fast industrialization and women were treated and paid, equally as men. For that reason, 8th of march was popular as the special female workmate day…It‘s been, sort of, obligatory for the men, to buy flowers for their women colleagues, on the occasion. In the evenings, women usually would have thrown parties, the so called banquets to cherish their feast.
Nowadays, the banquets and the flowers are still on the agenda, but the significance and the meaning of the International Women‘s day is often disputed. Many people, including women, sensitive on the communism topic, are denying 8th of March as a Soviet Union relic and are openly refusing to celebrate it. Others, from the younger generation, prefer to celebrate the femininity or the motherhood, on this day, which is totally wrong. As we all know, the history behind the International Women‘s day, leads back to massive strikes and demonstrations of women, demanding for their rights – the suffrage right and at its foundation is a civil awarness against any discrimination.
Despite the controversies around the socialistic roots of the feast, women in Bulgaria have a great advantage comparing to the other European countries in one specific field – the IT sector. According to the Euro state statistics, Bulgaria has the most women in Tech in the EU, and the merit goes ironically, to the communism. Science, technology, engineering and mathematics, or the STEM disciplines were not kept only for men, under the communist regime. Women were pursuing careers in STEM for the needs of the Soviet economy and obviously, that tradition is somehow hereditary. Today around 30% of Bulgarian women are in the high tech industry, including coding and artificial intelligence (compared to the EU average of 16% ). Some of them are even running their own companies in the field or /and educating young girls to code, through a variety of courses and tech conferences.
The EU Commissioner for digital economy and society is a Bulgarian woman, as well – Mariya Gabriel. But her name is only one amongst the many names of women, getting well known for their expertise in the ICT sector. Tech jobs are usually with flexible working hours, so women can easily manage the work-life balance, which is another advantage, apart from the good profit. Still, there is much to be done, to overcome the gender pay gap, even in the Technology, but the Bulgarian capital – Sofia, has already been named as the European Silicon Valley for women and that is promising enough.
I think I was very lucky that I went to a school where the ethos was
that we could become or achieve whatever we wanted so long as we had aptitude
and worked hard. We were unaware that we might come across any other obstacles
such as sexism, ageism, racism, or any other ‘ism’, we just had an innate
belief that everyone was equal and that success would stem from the effort you
In my family too my parents never put down boundaries. They never
said: ‘that is for boys’ or ‘this is for girls’.
I also had a role model of a grandmother who was a family doctor.
She graduated from Trinity College Dublin in the 1920s, so not the first, but
still something of a trailblazer in a male dominated profession nearly 100
And so I grew up expecting that my talents alone would lead me to
success in whatever field I chose, that I would control my life and make my own
choices. Of course while that is how it should be, with life experience I know
that is unfortunately still more aspiration than reality.
I still believe that you should succeed on merit, but during my
career I know I have lost out on jobs because I was female. I also worked in
one newsroom where all my colleagues were men and I was on the lowest salary even
though I was better qualified (if less experienced) than the men. Needless to
say I fought to have salary increased, banked the experience and moved on!
Although the struggle for female empowerment continues and some
countries are more advanced than others, there is progress.
There are more and more women breaking through the glass ceiling and taking up positions of leadership. Politics is a good example of where that change is happening. In the UK, the Prime Minister is a woman and the First Ministers of both Scotland and Northern Ireland are also women. There are also a record number of women serving in the US Congress making up nearly a quarter of its voting membership for the first time ever.
In her concession speech in 2016 Hillary Clinton said: “‘To all the
little girls who are watching, never doubt that you are valuable and powerful
and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and
achieve your dreams.’
We might not be there yet, but if all the little girls and boys
today believe those words then the future will not only be bright, it will be feminist.
With March celebrating International Women’s
Day, it’s time to reconnect with our femininity and those wonderful female
energies around us – reminding ourselves how amazing we are and how much joy we
are able to emanate to the world!
(Hey guys, this article is no
reflection on your impact in our life’s – promise – you are amazing, its just a
celebration to us!)
I’ve often heard it said that regardless of
the position in the home (mother, daughter, wife, grandmother) our energy is
what holds it up/lets it fall – right girls?
Sounds like lots of pressure to me.. but is it true?
I spoke to many colleagues and friends and
put it to the test… would you believe it, sounds like there might be something
“Why is it when we are
low or down, that energy goes out to the family/home… no one else steps up to
“Sometimes I’d just
like others in my family to be the gatherer and lift those spirits and keep
that positive energy going!”
“I am lucky, as when I
am not feeling joyous and happy, my husband steps up and gathers us in…. he
remarks – that being part of a heavy female family (three girls and one male
dog), estrogen is probably coming out of his paws too (lol!)”
Sometimes we underestimate our impact and
don’t realize what a difference we make regardless of how the world see us now
and what the current expectations are on women – interestingly, often created
by ourselves! Whether at home, holding down a couple of jobs, travelling, at
the gym, walking the dog, running workshops, lecturing, on the school run,
teaching, or all of the above – we are
incredible, so don’t let anyone take that away!
Our partners, friends and work colleagues see
it, even our kids see it, why don’t we?
Is it that we are constantly striving to be
better in others eyes, trying to please all or is it that we let society
blindside us to believe whatever is the latest ‘IN’, ‘way to be’ is the only
way; and if we don’t follow that trend, we fail!
Cause lets be honest wonderful ladies, as we
age with ‘grace and beauty’, and go through life’s rich (sometimes demanding)
tapestry, we get stronger and should remember to look inward and trust that
bright light called ‘intuition’ that lurks inside. This has been passed to us
through generations of amazing women before us, under grace and in the perfect
way and most importantly … with love!
So with this being ‘our’ month, let that
wonderful female energy shine out and share those thoughts, joys, actions and
all with love – we owe it to ourselves!
We are powerful beings
and deserve the world!
With so much joy and girl power, until next
I’m a single mother to my beautiful Zaina, I am originally from the beautiful Pacific Northwest of the United States. I am a PhD Candidate in Human Rights Law and a lover of yoga, travel and handstands.
What made you start Oz?
I was diagnosed with postpartum depression after I gave birth to my daughter. I struggled being away from my friends and family in Saudi as a new parent for the first time. Yoga helped me through that battle, everything I practised on the mat was a metaphor for things going on in my life. It allowed me to reconnect with myself after many years of being lost, it became something I wanted to share with the community.
How long have you been in
business in Riyadh?
I opened up my home studio and took on my first client in January
of 2017, I was granted the SAGIA license in May of 2018. Running a home
studio and an actual studio are incomparable, but the home studio process was a
necessity for me to be prepared for what would come.
Have you had formal
training or are you self-taught?
My journey started with youtube and Instagram, I was inspired by
others and learned from them. I was formally trained and registered first with
CorePower Yoga in 2016, then did my first 200 hour Yoga Teacher Certification
in 2017, I continued with further training in India and Bali to also be
certified in Kalari Prana Vinyasa and Aerial Yoga. In yoga, as in life,
nobody is truly “self taught”, we all have teachers in some form or
What does Oz
An incredible family of clients, staff, and instructors who are there for transformation and self-inquiry. We also have Yoga classes of many different varieties. For kids, for adults, for women, for men, and for people of all backgrounds and levels. We also offer yoga retreats around the world and teacher trainings for individuals looking to become Certified Yoga Instructors..
What makes Oz
OZ focuses only on yoga and how to look deeper
into our personal journeys. We try to integrate the ethics of the practice into
the business model, and try to encourage personal practice among our members.
We are a small start up, we are proud to clean up after ourselves, we try our
best to offer reasonable prices, and we try to accept everyone where they are
at. We are not a gym or studio, we are a safe space where people use
breath, mindfulness, and movement to dive deeper into their own journey and in
connection to the community around them.
What is a typical day like
Each day with the studio looks different, but I never have an alarm clock as my daughter wakes me up at 6am every morning. I make her breakfast and get her ready and drop her off at school, then return to the studio to teach private sessions throughout the day or whatever scheduled classes I have. I clean the studio a couple times a day, check people into classes, organize the schedule with the teachers each week, post to social media daily, try to organize events for the studio, plan new retreats, respond to social media, email and phone calls, head to the bank, pay bills. Saturday is my day off, but a lot of weeks I don’t have a day off. Some days I pop in and out of the studio and run errands and teach private sessions. Other days I am there from 9am to 10pm. It all depends. Every minute I have free from the studio I’m with my daughter.
What do you enjoy the most
about your work?
Yoga attracts some really great human beings, and I’ve met such an
incredible community of people who have loved, supported me and uplifted me
more than they will ever know. I love to see them develop in their journey, and
in yoga we deal with some pretty deep life issues, I love going there.
The other incredible thing is the family of teachers that we have working at
is the hardest part about your work?
Opening a new business is so difficult. Also, coming from a yoga studio culture in the USA that is very well developed, being the first studio of our kind in Saudi Arabia was difficult to try to create a new business model and culture in the community. The first three months I worked 80-90 hour weeks, and didn’t have a single day off. Being a single mom, going through divorce and some very deep life stuff on top of that was so tough. I struggle with being a business owner and having to pay bills. It’s hard to have something you love that you want to offer to everyone for free, but cannot. Turning passion into business has its perks, and its also difficult as we’ve had thousands of people through the studio now, its harder to get to know everyone who visits on a deeper level.
us about your journey of starting your own business in Riyadh.
I had been running a yoga studio from my home, as yoga was previously not permitted in the Kingdom, and as far as I knew foreigners couldn’t open start ups. When my ex-husband quit his job I was faced with the reality that I didn’t have anyone to depend on to raise my daughter but myself. I used my savings from private clients and teaching out of the home to get my license from SAGIA. I had to battle to find a government sponsored individual to hear my business plan and financial projections for the company. When the vision plan for the company was approved by the head of the Entrepreneurship institute, I partnered with my dear friend and long-time client Diana who invested into the idea and believed in me. Together we expanded and battled in government ministries to get all the required approvals, which seemed endless. I started the legalization process in May and we opened our doors in September. We started with not a single riyal in the bank, and have had to build everything from scratch and hire help little by little. It wasn’t the smartest way to start a company or the easiest, but we have had an incredible team that has worked their hearts out to make sure it would survive. I hope it continues to do so.
What advice would you give
women considering starting their own business in the Kingdom?
I would say it’s a battle. Get a good lawyer. Be super detailed
and clear about everything so that there is no confusion. Be diligent about
your vision and trust what you uniquely have to offer. Listen to the people
around you but trust your intuition. Also, there is always someone out there
doing the same thing as you, don’t compete – support each other. There are so
many things that should be simple here, but are so complicated and nothing is
what it seems. Arabic is a must. If you don’t speak Arabic, you NEED someone
who absolutely trust with your life to carry you through.
Where can creative women
go to network in Riyadh?
To OZ yoga studio of course!
you have a quote or motto that you live by?
motto always changes depending on my life season – but right now I’m inspired
by trying to be the best example of unwavering strength, of resilience, and
grit to my lovely daughter Zaina. My girl is a Saudi American, and I want her
to know that even in the most difficult of circumstances, as an outsider –
mommy could do it here, and did it for her. Or she tried her best anyways…
As soon as you set foot into Riyadh’s Eataly branch, you enter a sphere of Italian food loving. The Italians have always been passionate about food and the art of dining; mealtimes are ingrained in their culture, the importance ofspending time with family. Eating is a passion, a time for pleasure and leisure.
Eataly’s unique concept – the combination of a marketplace for highest-quality Italian foods and a restaurant – is a place which captures a piece of this passion for food, family time and the art of great cooking but offers unique shopping, culinary and Italian coffee drinking experience. Just like in Rome, New York, Munich, Tokyo, Los Angeles, this concept, founded only 15 years ago in Turin, has created a loyal following for its Thalia branch.
Manager Bilal Hakim and his team serve daily Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner (“all day dining”). The choices range from traditional Italian Antipasto to classics such as Pizza, Pasta & Risotto. Eataly also serves various meat and fish dishes – we particularly liked the Agnello Brasato, a slowcooked, “falling off the bone” braised lamb shank. Our favourite Antipasti was difficult to determine: we could not decide between the Carpaccio di Polpo, a dish of thinly sliced cooked octopus with rocket, capers and black olives, or the healthy (and vegetarian!) Insalata Elegante, which is a mix of fresh pears, mixed green salad andParmigiano Reggiano with walnuts and balsamic dressing.
When exiting the restaurant, you will find it hard to resisthaving a look at the merchandise: Eataly’s retail offering ranges from fresh breads and fresh meat and cheese counter to traditional Italian olive oils, balsamic vinegars and, of course, various Italian sweets and chocolates. Allof which we would put in the high-end, luxury segment. Hence, a gift voucher (on sale in the store) can make others feel loved.
Occasionally, Eataly offers ‘cooking classes’ such as “make you own pizza” or “make your own pasta”. We were fortunate to be part of a large school class arranged by the PTA at the British International School. Eataly’s specialised team provided cooking stations within a private area of the restaurant for almost 50 students over 2 sessions. The students were given a brief history of Italian cuisine and were taught how to prepare a Chocolate Calzone along with a “Dough” sing-song. The students were able to eat their creations along with ice cream and oranges, then presented with a certificate of participation. An excellent opportunity for all the family as parents got to observe the class while enjoyingg delights from the menu.
You may have guessed already, we very much like Eataly, not only for providing great educational, delicious entertainment for school communities but for bringing a diverse range of up-market Italian dishes and products straight to our doorstep in Riyadh.
Nice weather and kids around me. My son was
having his breakfast and I was getting his bag ready for school. He wanted to
draw something before leaving but the driver was outside and he I had to send
him. I gave him a paper and a pencil to draw in the car while going to school.
Then the routine chores cycle started and I
had to cook, clean, iron and more stuff to get done. My younger kid was up then
and I served him breakfast and started folding clean laundry near him. He
wanted me to give him bites but I told him he is a big boy now and I have so
much stuff to do.
But you know what, I wanted my kid to draw
that car before he left for school. I just got carried away with the fear of
getting late from school. I wanted to help my little one and accompany him while
tracing but I had to take that important phone call.
I just didn’t!
But u know, in a blink, kids grow up! There
will be a time in a few years when there would be no tracing, no breakfast
bites, no coloring, and no more tantrums. One day you will notice there will be
no more piles of homework and no more storybooks to read.
So if you have a chance to sit down with
your kids and ignore those emails or those calls just for the sake of their
happiness, do that!
I know cleaning the kitchen before sleeping is a great habit but somedays I just don’t want to leave the warm hugs of my kids so I leave the kitchen and forget about the dishes and we read stories and talk about dinosaurs and rockets.
Our kids grow up when we don’t even realize
how fast this all happens. With every passing day, we step closer to the time
when our kids will leave our nests and there will be empty rooms. Doesn’t
matter if you have girls or boys!
So please dear mommy, sit with your kid and
read that story.
A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than you love yourself. Josh Billings
I am a lucky girl, I am loved by not one dog but 3 gorgeous dogs – Sandy, Puppichino and Mocha Boy. I wanted to share my story with you and hope to inspire more of you to rescue a pet one day.
after my dream wedding in Mumbai, my husband and I moved to New Delhi as he was
transferred there. One of our evening rituals soon became to walk around the
quiet lanes of Anand Niketan and feed over 20 street dogs who lived there. We
went through a lot of dog food but got repaid in love, welcome woofs and wagging
tails. One of the dogs had a litter of puppies in our first month there and we
started taking milk, yoghurt and puppy food for the puppies and partnered with
other dog lovers to take them to their vaccinations at the friendly vet. Little
did we know how important they would become to our life.
One day, we realised one of our friendly street dogs was limping badly and looking miserable at the side of the road. He had been run over and was being given some first aid by a kind dog lover. He had deep cuts on his front paw and nose and was whimpering in pain. We picked up him up and took him home where he was cowering under the table. Every day, we would take him to the vet to be treated and then home to rest. He slowly grew in confidence and knew he was safe. Once he was finally recovered, we thought of releasing him back to the street. He soon let us and our security guards know that he preferred living with us. The third time, he came back to our home, we decided we would keep him. Sandy has now been with us for over 3 years and has lived in India, UK & now Saudi Arabia. He is a very happy dog, extremely loving and cuddly. He can be quite mischievous and adores toys and treats. His eyes are magnetic and often gets many people and dogs drawn to him. He has a great love of dates developed here in the Kingdom.
That was October 2015, a few short months later, August 2016, Puppichino entered our life. He was badly wounded on his back where some bigger dog had taken a big chunk out of this then 9-month-old puppy. He was one of the puppies we were looking after and we again took him in to care for him and take him to the vet. He again decided to stay and we realised he was good company for Sandy when we went to work. He is very affectionate and soon convinced us we are his ‘hoomans‘. Puppichino has traits of his border collie ancestry in him and is very intelligent. He can open doors, nudges you for strokes with his paw or head and is like a shadow to my hubby or me. Puppy reminds me to take a break when I am studying for my MBA or working on the newsletter. He is not much for toys but loves his food and treats. Cats are his enemy and he will try to chase any he spots as he strolls around the DQ. You have to watch any food in his reach as he will help himself to anything he can access – even stole a cupcake right under our nose.
Mocha’s story is similar as he got attacked by dogs in a shelter when he was being neutered. He is Puppichino’s brother and very loving. While bigger than the rest, he has always been shy and a bit of a loner. He is much loved by all of us and still lives in the UK with my in-laws. My mother-in-law is so attached to him that she often sings him to sleep and they share a bedroom. He enjoys crumpets, fish and many things English. My in laws take him on road trips and he keeps them young. We were lucky enough to spend time with him over the recent December holidays and miss him, but are happy he is well loved and looked after.
great part of having dogs in your life is your routine becomes focused around
them – morning walks to the park,
evening walks to the wadi and night walks around the block. The walks needs to
happen regardless of how tired you
are which means they are great for our
health. We play with them, cuddle them, bathe them, look after them in many
ways. They keep us active, give us so much love that you feel wonderful. They
are masters at guilt trips and use their beautiful eyes and cute head tilts to
make us feel bad when we go to work and leave them. They always know when we
are coming home and meet us at the gate. They are always happy to see you and
give you such a warm welcome every day when we come back home. If you are
feeling low or ill, Nurse Sandy will cuddle you and give you many loving licks.
We have taken them on road trips
including the mini Edge of the World and it’s a happy day for all of us to be
exploring together. They make for great guard dogs and Mocha even chased away a
burglar who attempted to enter my in-laws house in the UK. Sleeping at night
with the gentle snores of our dogs next to us, makes me feel all is right in
the world. Do think about rescuing a dog or a cat one day and changing a life.
Less than half a
minute later, a perfectly shaped seashell emerged from the rock that my
daughter had cut out armed with a sharp stone. Within an hour, we had found
carbonised wood, more seashells, a perfectly formed fish and pink coral. All
this, in the heart of the desert.
surface in Saudi Arabia literally means taking a long journey down one of the
most fascinating and undiscovered countries and regions.
May it be
archaeology, natural history, anthropology, geography or simply curiosity,
Saudi Arabia has it all. It may not be signposted or available in a pocket
guide book. But it is there to be discovered with a little bit of effort as
history unfurls in every corner of this kingdom.
As like thousands of expat families in Riyadh, Jeddah or Khobar, the Kingdom has drawn us to deserts and shores alike. A favourite family past time has been to identify a region or site of historical interest and research it and discover it. Armed with a shovel, sometimes a camera and other times an internet search engine, every corner of the Kingdom has something to fascinate even the new and the young.
It’s not just us
expats who seem to have found the country a treasure trove to discover. Our
Saudi friends marvel at the idea that their country is opening, including to
account of pre-Islamic Arabia.
In Abha, in the
Asir region, we found sites of great historical significance. Habala was a
village suspended against the mountain. Originally inhabited by a tribal
community known as the “flower men”, it was used as a refuge aginst the Turks
at the time of the Ottoman Empire.
al Balad in Jeddah is one of the most enthralling cities of the kingdom. The
UNESCO heritage site is a medinah of narrow streets full of shops and mosques,
open markets and old restored houses. Get lost. This medieval city wears its
identity as one of the most cosmopolitan cities on earth as travellers from the
four corners of the earth flock here on their way to Mecca and Medinah and have
done for centuries.
Houfouf is just
a train ride away in the Al Ahsa region. Also a UNESCO heritage site, it is
known for its dates but also its incredible souk of al Qaisariah which to this
day reminds visitors of its Ottoman origins. Al Ahsa is also perhaps the
greenest areas, and its population prides itself on being the most integrated,
often overlooked but never forgotten once you sample its hospitality. Nearby
caves are reminders of another era.
Al Faw, close to
Wadi Dawasir in the central region is another gem for any history lover. Qaryat
Al Faw was the first capital of the Kindah kingdom. It is one of the most
important pre-Islamic cities not just in the country, but also the region and
is about to be recognised as yet another UNESCO World Heritage site.
Riyadh are Masmak fort and Ad Derriyah, an all-time favourite now with its
restored At Turaif old city and Budjeri plazas. Ad Derriyah has become synonymous
with the e-Grand Prix and various events. But its charm remains its place as
the birthplace of the first Al Saud dynasty, a heritage that His Majesty King
Salman has renovated and celebrated with a project over 15 years in the making.
Taif further North
is another trove of historical sites, with on its way Al Ula and Madinah Saleh.
While these are featuring heavily on Saudi’s entertainment and tourist map,
they are first and foremost historical sites that have attracted historians for
roam, our favourite is however the simple treasures under our feet. May it be
in Wadi Hanifa, the Camel trail close to Riyadh or lost corners of the desert,
fossils are everywhere. The legacy of a bygone ear is everywhere, at our finger
In some ways, scratching the surface in Saudi Arabia has, for our family, not just been about the past. It has become about the future because the more you discover here, the more want to spend the time ahead travelling back in time.
“Don‘t forget to fall in love with yourself first.” Growing up, I‘ve realized, that this is my favourite quotation from Carrie Bradshаw. The heroine’s main goal was the existential search for love, totally opposite to the contemporary movements, centred around feminism and women‘s self-sufficiency, and perhaps too confusing for the youth to decide where they belong.
love themselves, I think, is the basic skill one ( but especially a woman ) has
to acquire. That love has not to be mistaken with selfishness and egoism, so
common amongst the milennials nowadays.. That love is a behavioral tool, any
parent has to start the relaitonship with their children with. Self love means confidence within
inside, it‘s the foundation of love in general. If one lacks lessons on self
love and self respect since childhood, that can easily lead to problematic relations with the others at the future – toxic friendships, family issues etc. Good news – it is never too
late to start loving yourself.
It‘s not about the unrealistic high self esteem, some parents are keen to nurture their kids with..It‘s about teaching one to observe their own values, strengths, flaws. To know yourself, to be able to practice self-criticism, are signs of maturity. Maturity is what a person needs to posses, so they can enjoy fruitful relationships and partnerships. Maturity is essential against the diseases, caused by our digital era, like the bad habit to compare our daily lives with influential social media profiles or celebrities, for example..
of thinking how to impress the others, the mature person usually is accepting herself with all positives and
negatives. If that is not real lоve, what is it?
loving people are less likely to be manipulated, they have their own lifestyle and
are more conscious. They are not copying the majority, often they are
creators, critical thinkers with independent opinion.
Knowing and loving yourself is always a process and needs a kind of literacy. For many girls or women, self-love simply means practising girly things, like shopping, spending time at beauty salons, etc. While these are really nice ways of spending some good #metime, they are far from the self-love I‘m talking about. One which is focused on our inner beauty and power. You can care for that inner beauty, while practising, not exactly shopping, but while you‘re observing yourself, instead. By treating yourself the way you want the others to treat you. It is sort of a spiritual experience when you are witnessing your own reactions from a certain distance. That can help you to improve them a lot and to become confident, to avoid constantly seeking others approval and attention. There are many options for you to develop that personal growth – through art, social inclusion via volunteering, some sports activities. Reading can be very helpful as well, but I wouldn‘t pick the trending self-help books. My current personal choice and recommendation is a classic one – “Man‘s search for meaning“ from the Austriann neurologist and psychiatrist, founder of logotherapy and a Holocaust surviver – Victor Frankl. A simplified scientific explanation, based on an autobiography and inspired by Nietzsche, on the meaning of life – having a goal and love, of course. And what love is greater than the love for yourself, the love for life… You have to start from that love, so you can set your goals for the future and can feel valuable and spread love for your family and society.
the end of the day , the longest relationship you will ever have is with
yourself, as per another valid cliche.